If you’re the parent or relative of a child with Aspergers, you know it can make life an agonizing struggle.
The obsessive routines. The preoccupation with one subject of interest (to the exclusion of most everything else). The problems they face understanding different social situations. The oversensitivity to sounds, tastes, smells and sights. Their feelings of being overwhelmed by even the smallest of changes…
Then there are the pressures YOU face: the inability to communicate with your child, the awkwardness you feel in social situations, the pressure it puts on your relationships with your partner and other children, and the desperate desire to try anything – in amongst a sea of physical and emotional exhaustion – to ensure your child is able to enjoy the best that life can offer – even if it’s on their terms.
It can be VERY frustrating having a child with Aspergers. The hardest part is you feel like you’ll never actually get to know your child and how they see the world in the same way other parents do. But how can you do that?
As a quick test, please ask yourself the following questions (and answer them honestly)
|1.||Do you ever feel tired, frustrated or overwhelmed as the parent of a child with Aspergers?|
|2.||Do you feel as if you’re on a constant 24-hours-a-day knife’s edge, waiting for the next ‘crisis’ to explode?|
|3.||Have you ever been so angry at your child that, even for a split second you
actually HATED them?
|4.||Has your child ever done anything so strange or dangerous that you’ve been FRIGHTENED of what they may be capable of?|
If you answered ‘yes’ to any of these questions, and you’re looking for answers to your Aspergers questions, then this could be the most important letter you ever read…
My name is Dave Angel I‘m a social worker working with families just like yours, and earned a Masters Degree in Applied Social Studies. In spite of all this, Aspergers was not something that I knew much about
I Visited A Family With An Unusual Child…
You never forget the first time you meet a child with Aspergers.
You see, I had a call from work to make a daytime visit to a family I’d never met before. The reason for going was to assess a young person who was struggling with school. He was feeling very low, was in a near-permanent depressed mood, and was also highly aggressive towards his older brother.
But that was only half the story, as I also remember the state of mind of the parents of this boy.
The mother of this child was so upset and frustrated that she didn’t know where to turn, and was so overwhelmed by it all that she was in tears and at the end of her tether.
The mother and father of this boy had split up, a common occurrence for parents of children with Aspergers, with a staggering 75% of such parents eventually splitting up, due in large part to the stresses and strains of coping with a child with Aspergers. The inability to communicate on the one hand, and the malicious gossiping of other parents in the schoolyard (who see your child as “strange” or “different”, oftentimes entirely without justification), all contribute to tear at the fabric of even the strongest relationships.
What’s more, each of them lived in different homes. This resulted in their son having two houses to get used to (when he spent time with each parent), which meant different routines, a lack of stability, and increased anxiety for all concerned.
So after my assessment, I felt extremely frustrated as I wasn’t able to offer any practical help.
I wanted to do what I could to assist this family, but I couldn’t, and that gnawed at me.
Meeting this family (and seeing their suffering and pain) sparked my desire to find out more, and I made it my mission to find out as much as I could about Aspergers.
The strange thing was, there was no shortage of information on Aspergers. But it fell squarely into one of two categories:
|1)||Either it was written by Academics in a very “dry”, difficult to understand manner|
|2)||Or the information was presented by well-meaning charitable organizations, with poorly put together websites (where it is hard to find the right information relevant to you and your child’s needs).|
In short, there was no one resource for ordinary parents, friends and relatives of people with Aspergers. A resource written in simple to understand, non-academic language where they could share their experiences and help each other to help themselves – and their child with Aspergers – to enjoy less stressful and more happy and productive lives…
But before I tell you more about my new guide, and how it can help your child (and your other family members) lead a happy, productive and loving life, I want to give you the facts on Aspergers. So with this mind, it’s high time I answered that all-important question…
In layman’s terms, Aspergers is a developmental disability which affects the way your child develops and understands the world around them, and directly linked to their senses and sensory processing. This means they often use these behaviors to block out their emotions or response to pain.
Although they may vary slightly from person to person, children with Aspergers tend to have similar symptoms, the main ones being:
|•||Difficulties with social functioning, particularly in the rough and tumble of a school environment|
|•||Sensory issues, where they are oversensitive to bright light, loud sounds and unpleasant smells|
|•||Obsessive interests, with a focus on one subject to the exclusion of all others|
|•||Social isolation and struggles to make friends due to a lack of empathy, and an inability to pick up on or understand social graces and cues (such as stopping talking and allowing others to speak)|
|•||A rigid Insistence on routine (where any change can cause an emotional and physiological meltdown)|
|•||A need to know when everything is happening in order not to feel completely overwhelmed|
To Your Questions About Aspergers…
Since 2006, I’ve worked with hundreds of families all around the world who have Aspergers.
Over these years I’ve been disturbed and saddened by the amount of pain and heartache that having a child with Aspergers can bring to some families, even though I’ve noticed that for other families it’s a joyous gift that they nurture and treasure.
The funny thing is that even though people who are parents of children with Aspergers may be from different parts of the world, they are often experiencing the same kinds of problems……
I decided that I wanted to find out more so that I could help the families that were suffering the most, and interviewed 107 families to find out what their biggest problems were and found that the main problem areas for families were…….
|•||Coping with their child’s difficult and aggressive behaviors…..|
|•||Understanding what is really going on inside their child’s head….|
|•||How to help their child to cope better in the community and at school…..|
|•||How to keep the peace at home with the rest of the family…..|
|•||Understanding the real meaning and causes of Aspergers.|
So I figured that what parents were looking for was a complete and comprehensive guide packed with practical tips and explanations all about their Aspergers child….
But not just some stuffy, old academic text book filled with long fancy sounding words that no-one actually understands or uses in the real world. A practical support guide, based on proven strategies used worldwide by the parents and families of people with Aspergers.
And this is your invitation to try it, risk-free, for the next 56 days…
ANNOUNCING: The Parenting Aspergers Resource Guide –
Your Practical Toolkit For Raising A Happy And Successful Child With Aspergers
|1.||The Parenting Aspergers Resource Guide is a simple guide which gives you the parent the simple yet highly effective tips, strategies and techniques to help you cope with and manage your child’s behavioral and emotional needs.|
|2.||Based on tried and trusted methods that have worked with Aspergers children all over the world, the guide will give you greater control and stability in both your child’s and your family’s lives, and empower you to manage your child with Aspergers’ symptoms in a simple and less painful way.|
|3.||My objective in offering this resource is simple: I want to take all of the experience, expert information and great ideas from both me and my colleagues and give them to you. That way you have a hugely valuable resource packed solid with advice, fresh ideas and solutions to the problems you face on a day-to-day basis.|
|4.||You can have it with you all of the time and can use it to overcome the day-to-day problems in parenting a child with Aspergers. The Parenting Aspergers Resource Guide will be like having your own expert Aspergers team in a small corner of your living room gently supporting and advising you to make the right decisions for you and your child every second of the day.|
‘…Your book is an excellent informational resource, so easy to read and understand…’
“This past week I printed pages 116 through 119 of your book to aid an IEP in the works for our Alex, age 10. Your book is an excellent informational resource, so easy to read and understand. I know I will reference it more in the future and also mention it at the next Collaborative Autism Intervention Project (CAIP) workshop I attend. Thank you so much”
Melinda Boren – Parent of an Asperger’s Child, Missouri, USA
I’ve put together a team of experts who have helped to develop the solutions to the many problems that you will face as a parent with an Aspergers child.
This expert team is made up of many different experts such as Social Workers, Parents, Clinical Psychologists, Educational Psychologists, Speech-Language Pathologists,
Autism Specialists and Special Needs Teachers, and they come from all over the world including Europe, North America and Australia.
|•||In particular I have a U.K. Chartered Educational Psychologist (who received her Masters in Psychology at the University of East London) and who has more than 20 years experience as both a Special Needs Teacher and Educational Psychologist.|
She is working with me on behavioral and psychological issues for Aspergers children and their family.
|•||I also have a medical doctor, Christine Traxler, from the USA (who received her Medical Doctorate from the University of Minnesota) who has more than 15 years experience in medicine and who works with me on the medical side of Aspergers.|
Between them my team have many years experience of working with thousands of families with Aspergers children.
With this wide range of experience and understanding, you can be sure that you will get solutions to your problems that will be both thorough and proven to work in real life.